It seemed at one time that marriage was becoming a disposable commodity in this country.  For a couple just starting out the odds were only 50 percent in their favor, as nearly half of all marriages end in divorce.  But as counseling has become more socially acceptable, more people are beginning to seek it out, and as more people are realizing the value of keeping God in the marriage Christian marriage therapists are growing in popularity.

Almost any kind of therapy can be beneficial if it gets the spouses to open up the lines of communication.  Many times couples will seek therapy with each spouse believing the other is the “problem”.  By talking things through it usually becomes obvious that both spouses are a part of the problem.  A good therapist will be able to help each spouse understand that they can’t change their spouse, but only themselves.

The biggest difference with Christian marriage therapists is that they are likely to use biblical principles and scripture to help the couple make those changes.  By seeking out Christian marriage therapists the couple is essentially declaring that faith and the biblical principles on which their marriage is founded are crucial to the survival of their marriage.

On the other hand sometimes couples — even Christian couples — lose hope so badly that they are ready to give up on the marriage, and so counseling is a half-hearted gesture.  If the primary goal of therapy is to prove their irreconcilable differences and so justify getting a divorce then that couple would want to steer clear of most Christian marriage therapists.